0:00 – Opening
0:13 – Introduction to When Life is Hard series
1:32 – Definition of anger
2:10 – Healthy Anger: Example of Jesus’s anger in Temple (John 2:13-17)
4:55 – Sinful Anger, “the anger of man, does not produce the righteousness of God.” (Jas 1:20)
6:08 – Causes of sinful anger
7:04 – Handling sinful anger: “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (Jas. 1:19).
8:36 – Quick to hear: listen carefully
10:33 – Slow to speak involves the “Four Rules of Communication” from Ephesians 4:25-32
11:03 – Rule 1: Be Honest (Eph. 4:25): Be kind and gentle in your spirit, but speak the truth
11:29 – Rule 2: Stay Current (Eph. 4:26-27): Don’t hold on to your anger
12:02 – Rule 3: Attack the Problem Not the Person (Eph. 4:29-30): Responding to what they did, not who they are
12:46 – Rule 4: Act, Don’t React (Eph. 4:31–32)
14:05 – Be slow to anger: express your anger in a healthy way. Let the fruit of Spirit’s self-control act in you.
15:24 – Have a contingency plan when you feel sinful anger rising: Reviewing Scripture, confessing evil thoughts, prayer, reflecting on good qualities of the person
17:25 – So What? What are our practical takeaways from this episode?
17:48 – Remove yourself from situations and places that bring temptation to become angry.
19:19 – Learn to ignore petty disagreements. Most hills aren’t worth dying on. And God even says it’s your “glory to overlook an offense” (Prov. 19:11).
20:17 – Stay away from habitually angry people
21:30 – If you are in a violent or dangerous context with someone. GET OUT and get safe.
22:14 – Next Step This week: (1) Next time you face a problem, choose to attack the problem and not the person. (2) If you have gotten angry with someone, seek them out and ask forgiveness.
23:28 – Thank you and wrap up
*We’re indebted to Faith Church of Lafayette, Indiana for pointing out the “Four Rules of Communication” in Ephesians 4: https://www.faithlafayette.org/resources/sermons/christian_life_and_growth_four_rules_of_communic
